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Tag Archives: technology
Buying a car can be a fun – and stressful – activity for a couple. On the one hand you have the excitement of a new automobile. On the other you have the expense of a new automobile. Any time you mix excitement with expense you have the formula for a nasty argument.
But that is not my only concern with buying an automobile. I thought after my wife and I bought a minivan that we could navigate anything. But watching a commercial the other day I noticed something. New cars today can:
- Present you with a map of your destination
- Tell you if you make a wrong turn
- Keep telling you about your wrong turn until you correct your mistake
- Alert you if you are falling asleep
- Alert you if there is a car in the lane you’re about to merge into
- Slow you down if you get too close to something ahead of you
- Remind you that you are still going the wrong way
I’m guessing that some of you can already see why this is a problem. If my car can do all of this, what is my wife going to do? Take away these tasks and we might have to… talk, or something.
But seriously: Life is filled with stressful events such as buying an automobile (or dealing with a bad driver.) The real question is how do we handle those times? Does pressure make your relationship stronger? Or does it tear it apart? You can’t always choose the pressure situations, but you can choose how it affects your relationship.
Do you have any funny stories about buying a car? Or a backseat driving spouse? What do you do to help your relationship through stressful times?
Technology seems to impact everything around us. Our jobs, our hobbies and our interactions can all change with technological advances. This is even true in our marriages. Since relationships are real and not virtual (if your marriage is virtual then this blog may not apply) it may be easy to overlook the impact of technology. Today’s post aims to point out some of the areas where technology may be impacting your marriage for the worse.
Here are some warning signs that technology may, in fact, be damaging your marriage’s communication:
- You use Internet shortcuts when actually talking – e.g. “He said that? LOL!”
- You send each other text messages even when your sitting in the same room
- You finalize “what’s for dinner” by exchanging Facebook status updates
- You interrupt your spouse after ever 140 characters
- You can’t remember the last time the two of you had dinner without a phone
- He won’t answer your phone call but he will respond to your text message
- When you think of your spouse you picture them as they are in their Facebook profile pic
- You call their mobile instead of walking to the other end of the house to speak to them
But seriously: We all know that communication is vital to our marriage, but do we spend time trying to improve it? Do you put technology to work making your marriage better? Or is it just another way to avoid each other while still keeping things moving? Remember, what your spouse really needs to hear is “I <3 u”.
Now it’s your turn. What other “warning signs” can you think of?